There are quite a few things I've begun implementing into my daily routine, & a personal in-the-mirror pep-talk is one of them. Yep. Talking to myself. Alone. Like a weird loser.
But the thing is, I'm not a loser, & quite honestly, I've learned from the best.
I don't remember how old I was, but my cousin Lena & I decided to stay the night at Grandma & Grandpas one weekend. We were super excited, because my Grandparents were touring the states in their RV, & we hadn't gotten to see them in a while.
As we were getting ready for bed, a dispute between my Grandma & Grandpa started up. While Lena & I were laying on the pull out bed, Grandma had reached for a piece of wood & prepared to prop the foot of the bed up with it (because the bed was a bit tilted). That's when Grandpa stepped in telling her that the piece of wood was not meant for the bed. It was a quick little debate, but it left Lena & I worried about Grandma, who had retreated, seemingly embarrassed & sad, to the bathroom.
After Grandpa went back to the master bedroom, Lena & I just stared at one another. Both children of divorce, we were thinking things were really getting rough for these retirees who'd been traveling the world together for a good five plus years at this point. And in such tight quarters. But then Grandma came out of the bathroom as if nothing had happened at all. She smiled, clapped her hands together, proclaimed "OKAY!", tucked us in, kissed us goodnight & went - truly happily - to bed.
What? The? Hell?! If Lena & I weren't confused before, we certainly were then.
When explaining this to our moms, they both laughed it off. It was then that I learned that Grandma had gone into the bathroom & gave herself a pep-talk in the mirror. They even had a narration for what probably happened in that moment.
"Louise (my Grandma's name), you love this man & he loves you. Your granddaughters are out there waiting for you to tuck them in. Brush it off, it's nothing that will matter tomorrow. You are amazing & you know it."
This all goes without saying that I look up to both of my Grandma's, eager to be them when I grow up (truly). I know how lucky I am to have them, how much I have learned from them & how much I can still learn from them. BE YOURSELF, but also be THERE for yourself. It's a slippery slope when you are down on yourself, & it can happen before you've even registered that it's happening.
I understand that giving yourself a pep-talk sounds incredibly ridiculous - Hell, I laughed until I cried when I heard this possible conversation - but if you think about it, it's actually pretty genius. How often do you find that we are there for ourselves. All I hear about right now are people who defend their friends but are unable to defend themselves. Why don't we treat ourselves like we would our best friend? -- There are things that go through my head all of the time that I wouldn't DARE let pass through the mind of my best friend.
So, here it is, the moment that I tell you to stand up, go to the mirror, & tell yourself that you're amazing. Fall in love with yourself! Focus on what you're grateful for, what matters most to you & ask yourself if whatever you are fussing about will matter one month from now, or even tomorrow.
Say it: I am amazing.
Today's Pep Talk:
Yes, on Sunday you dropped a bucket of paint all over the living room floor, but you're so amazing that you had it cleaned up within a half an hour. Only one rug was ruined, nothing else was damaged. It could have been much worse. And, you didn't like that rug much anyway. - You are amazing & beautiful & have so much in life to look forward to. You should be so grateful of all of the opportunities you have at your feet, for an amazing husband & a sweet dog. - You got this girl. You vs. You, remember?
*Bonus: Watch this amazing little girl give herself a pep-talk. She gets it.